Love the hell out of yourself for who you are right now, this very day, this very moment. Don't love the person you will become tomorrow, you have not become them yet, and you will only become them when you start loving the person you are right now. At this very moment in time, with all the good and the bad things that make us who we are, is where we start. How do we do this? Well the truth of the matter is we have all the building blocks in us, we just don't know how to start.
Western society has a pretty sickly view on self love, its seen with so much scepticism and doubt. It is seen as a weak and gushy thing. Why should we have love for ourselves, we gotta be hard, and tough and strong. Our society teaches us to concentrate on the weaknesses and beat it out of ourselves with so little trust, so little compassion that it wants to make machines out of the very organic creatures we are. The truth of the matter is this is the ultimate strength, because its so damn hard. Learning to love the person you are for all the positive and negative aspects will be the hardest thing you ever do in your life, and you will be doing it the rest of your life, so start right now.
We have to build a house of self love we just don't how to use the hammer. That hammer is just love. Before you do anything you gotta start with the ground floor, and that floor is self love too. The windows, the walls the doors and the ceiling, they are all self love. Even if the house never actually gets built, as long as you have your floor of love you have something. If you have ever loved anything, a material object or a tv show, then you already know how to love, and treat yourself like the thing you love more than anything.
You have to start with giving yourself a grain of salt, reminding yourself your a beautifully flawed human being and letting this be your mantra. Tell yourself every day you love yourself, tell it to yourself a hundred times a day. If all you did was tell yourself that you loved yourself today, that is something, make that your base. Write yourself love poetry, or dumb love songs. Write yourself love letters, and then burn them. Leave yourself secret messages, on the bathroom mirror, under the sink or in the cupboard. Treat yourself the way you wish your partners in past relationships had treated you, and start doing it now. This is not just buying yourself chocolate, thought sometimes it is, it is treating yourself with the same dignity, respect, and kindness that you treat your friends, family, loved ones and your dog, Bubbles. If you can begin to even start to love yourself the way you do your dog or cat, then your doing this right.
You cant go overboard in self love as long as you are honest about it, if all you do is brag to the world how much you love yourself your just showing off. Self love is personal, private, sacred. You gotta make sweet, sweet love to your spirit and not post the video online. The best part about self love, is when you have done it enough, it stops being just about the self, it becomes everyone, everything you come into contact with. Self love will start to radiate through you and become infectious. It starts becoming everyone love, that you can share with your next door neighbor or the stars in the sky.
Start right now, tell yourself you love yourself, I dare you. If you do this, it will be the bravest thing you will ever do in your life, i promise you wont regret it.
